¿Por que me importan tanto lo que los demás piensen de mi?
Cuando le doy mas importancia a lo que el otro piensa de mi
Soy psicóloga y terapeuta, llevo unos años ya en consulta privada y a lo largo de este tiempo me he topado con pacientes tanto hombres como mujeres sumamente exitosos, inteligentes, o mujeres perfectamente bellas o con puestos directivos muy altos o una capacidad de liderazgo impresionante y me he dado cuenta de que todo eso se viene “abajo” cuando reciben una critica, comentario, broma o chisme acerca de ellos mismos, es como si todo lo que tienen desapareciera y ahora su atención esta centrada en lo “malo” que les dijeron.
Es real que no vivimos solos y que vivimos en un mundo donde las apariencias, las relaciones personales e incluso la capacidad económica influye, nadie en este mundo somos ajenos a eso pero, ¿por que existen personas a las cuales no les parece afectar tanto lo que puedan decir de ellas y otras a las que les lastima muchísimo una critica o comentario?
Nos la pasamos a veces tan preocupados de lo que dijeron los demás acerca de nosotros que hasta nos olvidamos de lo que yo pienso de mi mismo, y peor aun a veces tomo la opinión del otro y la hago mía y creo que soy eso que el otro piensa de mi.
Te has puesto a reflexionar en algún momento de donde viene esa idea de que eres flojo?, o de que no eres inteligente? o de que nunca vas a lograr nada?, o peor aun de que no eres bonita? tu te lo dijiste a ti misma o alguien mas te lo dijo y lo hiciste tuyo? no importa quien lo haya dicho si tus padres, tu pareja, tus amigos o tus hijos, pregúntate de donde vienen todas esas ideas o conceptos que tienes de ti misma.
Hay personas que recibieron una critica hace varios años ya se se sintieron tan afectados que no volvieron a realizar aquella actividad o no se volvieron a vestir de tal manera o hablar de tal forma y viven al día de hoy creyendo que son inseguras por algo que creen de ellas mismas que ni siquiera ellas mismas lo dijeron.
Todos estamos expuestos a recibir una critica o comentario sin embargo si es algo que tu te das cuenta que puedes mejorar o cambiar eso quiere decir que esta en tu control y puedes hacerlo pero siempre cuestionate primero si realmente esa critica o comentario que recibiste tu lo crees de ti misma, si no lo crees que sea así por favor no le des a la opinión de la otra persona mas importancia que a la tuya, recuerda que lo que los demás piensen de ti no determina lo que vales.
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Como la depresión me ha cambiado
Desde hace 5 años padezco depresión, fui diagnosticada a los 18 años con ella y cada vez he tenido mas recaídas, siento que mi vida va cambiando pero para mal, menor arreglo, menor sueño, comía menos, un día estuve al punto del suicidio cuando me di cuenta de algo, la importancia de no creerte siempre lo que piensas.
Parece algo tonto al inicio pero en realidad es la clave completa para un cambio y me refiero a un cambio verdadero.
Descubrí que la depresión son días, meses incluso pero jamas es eterna, siempre es temporal y siempre sera una lucha constante en mi vida.
No te rindas, siempre hubo y siempre habrá camino
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- You’ve been feeling low or irritable for most of the day, every day for two weeks or more. You might have found yourself worrying about past or future events for long periods of time, or simply feeling sad, cross or tearful. Sometimes it’s hard to recognize a gradual change – have others noticed that you don’t seem your usual self?
- You’ve lost interest in activities that you used to enjoy. Perhaps you have been seeing less of your friends or family recently, have stopped going to the gym, or cooking balanced meals. This is really about recognizing changes in what’s normal for you – no one is saying you have to exercise five times a week or eat your greens, but changes in your routine can offer concrete indications that your mood is changing.
- You are struggling to concentrate. You might notice that you struggle to focus when reading or watching television, for example, or to follow the thread of a spoken conversation. This could be affecting your performance at work, or limiting your ability to perform routine tasks such as food shopping. Again, we are looking for a change in what’s normal for you, so if concentration has always been something you find tricky there is little cause for concern.
In three words I can sum up everything I’ve learned about life: it goes on.
– Robert Frost
Which is better, dogs or cats?
- You’ve been feeling low or irritable for most of the day, every day for two weeks or more. You might have found yourself worrying about past or future events for long periods of time, or simply feeling sad, cross or tearful. Sometimes it’s hard to recognize a gradual change – have others noticed that you don’t seem your usual self?
- You’ve lost interest in activities that you used to enjoy. Perhaps you have been seeing less of your friends or family recently, have stopped going to the gym, or cooking balanced meals. This is really about recognizing changes in what’s normal for you – no one is saying you have to exercise five times a week or eat your greens, but changes in your routine can offer concrete indications that your mood is changing.
- You are struggling to concentrate. You might notice that you struggle to focus when reading or watching television, for example, or to follow the thread of a spoken conversation. This could be affecting your performance at work, or limiting your ability to perform routine tasks such as food shopping. Again, we are looking for a change in what’s normal for you, so if concentration has always been something you find tricky there is little cause for concern.
In three words I can sum up everything I’ve learned about life: it goes on.
– Robert Frost
Depression: Not Just for Girls?
- You’ve been feeling low or irritable for most of the day, every day for two weeks or more. You might have found yourself worrying about past or future events for long periods of time, or simply feeling sad, cross or tearful. Sometimes it’s hard to recognize a gradual change – have others noticed that you don’t seem your usual self?
- You’ve lost interest in activities that you used to enjoy. Perhaps you have been seeing less of your friends or family recently, have stopped going to the gym, or cooking balanced meals. This is really about recognizing changes in what’s normal for you – no one is saying you have to exercise five times a week or eat your greens, but changes in your routine can offer concrete indications that your mood is changing.
- You are struggling to concentrate. You might notice that you struggle to focus when reading or watching television, for example, or to follow the thread of a spoken conversation. This could be affecting your performance at work, or limiting your ability to perform routine tasks such as food shopping. Again, we are looking for a change in what’s normal for you, so if concentration has always been something you find tricky there is little cause for concern.
In three words I can sum up everything I’ve learned about life: it goes on.
– Robert Frost